Before I get to the problems, I just wanted to note that the reminder that conservative evangelicals don’t normally talk about loving the sinner and hating the sin with respect to their clergy who are divorced and remarried is a good one. (Though the online backlash at Derek Webb and Sandra McCracken, of CCM and Christian singer-songwriter fame, after they announced the end of their marriage, might put that thesis to the test.)
So, the problem with this argument is that it makes it seem a bit like you must go through trauma first before being allowed to have a marriage validated by the Church unless you’re straight.
Also, the entire concept of annulment gets brushed over far too quickly by the author. If the overwhelming acceptance of divorce and remarriage is why conservative evangelicals should love gay people and bless their unions (… marriages, right?), and part of that argument rests in what the most conservative denominations say about divorce, Roman Catholicism isn’t a great example since divorce doesn’t exist in the Catholic Church, and an annulment means that the first marriage never happened according to the Church (this there is no “re”-marriage, only a new marriage by someone who was once legally but not sacramentally united).
Finally, divorce and remarriage is a sin of the past and not the present in many peoples’ eyes. It’s something to forgive someone of, but it’s not like ANOTHER divorce would be okay. They aren’t “living in sin” in the eyes of many evangelicals (unless of course they are living together prior to marriage) the way that any gay couple would be perceived to be doing.
All in all, the article may be noting important theological perspectives needed for conservative evangelicals to get on board with gays and same-sex relationships. It’s not an attitude of justice, or of looking beyond “a plain reading” of Scripture to deeper context, or of interrogating the privilege of heteronormativity (though the one part about “maybe we are okay with divorce because it’s not feasible to run a church without divorced people” gets close), but it’s a step beyond “love the sinner, hate the sin” and finding gay people reprehensible because of who God made them to be.